“Your Cheatin’ Heart…”
In response to my article “Dear Jonny, I Need Revenge…,” I received the following message:
September 3, 2011 at 2:34 pm
“I find it sort of pathetic that you’re using humor to disguise what is really just flat out abuse. This “tuna idea” is sick and ridiculous and I honestly cannot even begin to address your “urine in a cup” suggestion without my gag reflex kicking in. What sort of demented individual actually finds justification for playfully encouraging that sort of diseased behavior? Since when has revenge been good for anyone? Can you even look at yourself in the mirror? Honestly? This guy writes in telling you his girlfriend has been cheating on him and you respond by outlining some crude form of vengeance but you have no idea if she actually deserved it. You can’t encourage retaliation if you don’t know the circumstances leading up to her infidelity. For all you know the guy was a piece of shit and she was driven to do what she did. Can you understand that? I sincerely doubt it but maybe you should attempt to get past your obvious misogynistic tendencies long enough to get a fair and balanced view of your reader’s situations. As it stands your perspective is all screwed up. So is your logic and so are your resulting responses. Get a handle on things.”
Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts so extensively. Now, let me dissect you. 99% of your response is “filler.” From “I find it sort of pathetic that you’re using humor to disguise what is really just flat out abuse” to “You can’t encourage retaliation if you don’t know the circumstances leading up to the infidelity” you jump all over the place, asking several dead-end rhetorical questions while working up the courage to regurgitate what’s really on your mind: “For all you know the guy was a piece of shit and she was driven to do what she did.” That comment spills the proverbial beans, revealing the true nature of the driving force behind your hostile projection. It’s plenty obvious that on one or more occasions you’ve been unfaithful, which caused one or more men to seek revenge in one form or another. I know this because you’re condemning vengeful behavior while simultaneously excusing infidelity, the end result of which is the calling card of a woman who, in response to entangling herself with romantic indiscretions, is harboring a certain degree of frustration, guilt, anger, and fear. You’ve fucked around on a few guys, all the while excusing the behavior via labeling them as pieces of shit. I’m sure you got away with it for quite some time, but eventually it caught up with you. Somebody became aware of your cheating and sought revenge, which in all likelihood A) Scared the hell out of you, and B) Forced you to confront the reality of your questionable actions. That, in turn, manifested deep-seated feelings of self-loathing, which were easier to deny than address. This denial has saturated your existence, filling you with hate for most – if not all – men. And what better man than myself to vent your seething frustration upon? It felt good, no? It temporarily satisfied you, didn’t it? But only temporarily. Only until YOU look back into the mirror, remembering the sharp sting of the truth in my words. Tell me, Kaycee, how will that feel?