Dear Jonny, Am I Good Enough?
My girlfriend just broke up with me for the fourth time in two years. I have no doubt we’ll get back together, but she says (has said many times) that I’m not good enough for her. That I don’t try hard enough. Maybe she’s right. What do you think I should do?
It’s fairly simple to deduce that this woman thrives on control. She obviously derives some degree of satisfaction from playing with your emotions, which, among other things, is a sign of extreme insecurity. I don’t have enough information to sufficiently explore this, but I’ll venture to say that trailing you along for two years while simultaneously degrading your worth as a man is indicative of some pretty sick shit bouncing around in her head. What should you do? Well, you could do what the late serial killer Ted Bundy did when his girlfriend decided to dump him for similar reasons. He buckled down, joined a political campaign, and busted his ass in law school. Some time later he returned to her area, looked her up, then wined and dined her for a while. He boasted of his great efforts, showcased his newfound confidence, and alluded to future successes. She was charmed. He proposed. She accepted. Then he walked away from her without explanation, leaving her to face feelings similar to what she’d put him through. Pretty damn slick if you ask me.