Dear Jonny, Love At First Sight?
What do you think of the expression “Love at first sight”?
I think it’s pretty much bullshit. I may have mentioned this before somewhere on my website, but I lend credence to the theory that “love” is nothing more than a subconscious affirmation that an individual has encountered a more than suitable co-parent with whom to further the species. By that logic, love at first sight is a raw, deep-seated reaction to a cocktail of “feel good” chemicals released from the brain as our eyes suddenly and unexpectedly rest upon someone who possesses certain physical characteristics we believe will effectively mesh with our own, thereby producing healthy, attractive offspring. Having experienced this phenomenon myself, I can attest to its power and allurement. Unfortunately, a sudden, intense attraction to a complete stranger is, in my eyes, a recipe for evolutionary disaster. Sure, we can toy with the notion of instant love, letting it wash over us while we’re engaged in impromptu bouts of otherworldly love-making. In reality, however, we know nothing of this person beyond the incredible feeling we have while LOOKING at them. We are, in fact, wholly oblivious to their psychological condition, emotional stability, physical health, and whether or not they have a freezer full of recently decapitated heads. In the end (this applies to people of all sexual orientations), I believe love at first sight is merely a potent visual reaction to someone we find overwhelmingly aesthetically pleasing for reasons that are pre-programmed into our brains. Hopefully logic kicks in after the initial shock wave, leading to careful criticism of what is ultimately a figment of potentially dangerous romantic ideology. That’s about it.