Dear Jonny, Two Alpha Males?
Can two alpha males get along?
Though it’s ultimately a complex issue, yes they can. Now, in my experience many alpha males associate almost exclusively with beta males, which I attribute to the easygoing nature of the relationship. A large percentage of betas revere their alpha counterparts, showering them with praise, respect and admiration. Socializing with people who consistently look up to you is very flattering to the ego; it’s a rewarding experience. In addition, it’s a safe association. Inherently passive beta males are very rarely seen as a threat, as there’s little to no social competition. Therefore, alpha males are more comfortable letting their guard down long enough to relax. That becomes an important ritual. In many ways, it’s a relationship of convenience. That said, it can also go the other way. Over the years I’ve been friends with many classic alpha males, and quite a few of them are extremely uncomfortable in the presence of anyone overtly dissimilar. They often practice pack mentality, addressing the world from a collective viewpoint. I suppose that on a basic level we’re all comfortable around individuals who possess characteristics we see in ourselves; familiarity goes a long way. However, that close similarity also paves the way for fierce competition between men who are all used to being number one. There’s an ever-so-fine line between near perfect kinship and absolute incompatibility. Again, it’s all about what, if anything, is being competed for at the time. Things can get ugly fast, and I’ve seen it come to blows on numerous occasions. As I said, it’s complicated.