Dear Jonny, Two Alpha Males?

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6 Responses

  1. A Voice In The Wilderness says:

    Interesting stuff.

  2. Ashley says:

    I agree that this is interesting stuff. My husband has always been the aggressive “tough guy” type and until now it never really occurred to me that most if not all of his friends have very passive dispositions. They’re really not like him at all. Makes sense now.

  3. Anonymous says:

    If an alpha male mostly enjoys relationships with beta males isn’t that a beta male tendency.Wouldn’t an alpha male want to assert his ideas to people who think differently(you seem to enjoy it)?Like a politician.

    • Jon says:

      Good questions. “If an alpha male mostly enjoys relationships with beta males isn’t that a beta male tendency.” – It could certainly be construed as such, but I tend to think that many dominant personalities thrive on absolute control. Socializing exclusively with beta males is a nearly foolproof way for alphas to ensure their opinions will not be challenged, which ultimately gives them complete power – over their group – all the time. In other words, for an alpha, choosing to hang out with betas is a “safe” activity. There is little to no threat of a younger, bolder lion suddenly and unexpectedly “dethroning” him. That might very well be viewed as evidence of weakness and/or fear, to which no one is completely invulnerable. It’s obviously not a black and white issue. “Wouldn’t an alpha male want to assert his ideas to people who think differently..?” – Definitely. I think more alpha males fall into this category. They prefer constant challenges, particularly from people who they believe to be some degree of threat, because succeeding in the competition against them will consciously reinforce the idea that they are, in fact, alpha males. I agree that you see a great deal of this sort of behavior in political arenas.

  4. Anonymous says:

    Is there such a thing as a happy beta male?Seems to me like being a lesser man would be intolerable.

    • Jon says:

      A large percentage of alpha males tend to seek out confrontation. They’re risk takers. They have much more of a presence than beta males, and are generally considered to possess a superior level of confidence. That said, I’ve known my fair share of fundamentally miserable alphas. The aforementioned character traits are obviously not enough to make/keep everyone happy, or even content, so I’m sure there are plenty of beta males who lead perfectly normal, pleasant lives. Their existences are more subdued, but so what. I know plenty of betas who regularly get unbelievable amounts of sex from smokin’ hot alpha females. But that’s another jug of protein powder..

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